faithfulness to the call & mission: the heartfelt class of 1987

 

1987

2023

masturbation evolved 40 million years ago in primates & common in animal kingdom

 https://www.msn.com/en-ph/news/other/primates-have-been-practicing-self-love-for-millions-of-years-study-finds/ss-AA1czCVl?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=U531&cvid=73ef9ae692384527a6c726ca5fd6b458&ei=117#image=18

Evolutionary Biology researcher Dr. Brindle & co-researchers (in Proceedings of the Royal Society B) found our "dirty little secret" must have evolved around 40 million years ago among primates. Research on 105 out of 272 primate species found that 74.5% of females and 87.4% of males do this "ancient, evolved trait." Zoo keepers and Primatologists were also interviewed. 

Q: Why?

A: No conclusive answer. While there seems to be no fitness benefits, the theory pf high libido was challenged and the possibility of clearing pathogens was advanced. In females, it could possibly increase mate selection as it made the environment more hospitable to male sperm. 

The self-pleasuring activity correlated with mating systems with multiple partners and incidences of STDs.

masturbation triggers and coping strategies

02/13/23 27M US

Q21: How frequently do you currently masturbate? What are its triggers? Describe your masturbatory fantasies. How do you feel about it?

 A21: "Once every three weeks. Videos on social media with sexual content that I scroll to. If I continue to pursue will lead eventually to pornography that leads to masturbation. The feeling of a LACK OF CONNECTION WITH PEOPLE / FRIENDS or a DIFFICULT TASK THAT I WANT TO DISTRACT MYSELF FROM will often lead to more media consumption increasing the odds of falling for sexual content and starting the trigger" [caps mine].

Q46: What do you think will be the difficulties and struggles for you in trying to live celibate chastity?

46: "I think there will be challenges in communication that could make me feel isolated or not unified in service and fellowship with my fellow SOW Brothers. I will have to find a proper response to deal with that. Another Struggle will be to keep working on developing a breadth of relationships in my brotherhood and in the broader community. Working through DISCOURAGEMENT and FEAR will be an important skill I will need to continue to foster." [caps mine]

example of aggressive / "you" communication

 27 apr 2023

on this day, I almost got into another "ineffective communication" (religious debate) with a born again 62M client who was healed gradually from listening to the late mr eli soriano, a protestant preacher, on radio. he eventually joined their flock & became an ardent collaborator.

he said: "sinasamba ninyo (you) si mama mary!" 

thank god, I was able to restrain myself and proceeded with the psychotherapy session which resulted in profuse tears and outright immediate FORGIVENESS for his MOTHER who verbally and physically abused them and led him to become a multi-drug addict in the 70s!

anger management tip: count 1 to 10

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GALIT YARN?

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Di ko alam kung narinig nyo na 'tong theory/method na 'to..

Sabi, pag daw nagagalit ka, bumilang ka daw muna hanggang sampu (10) bago ka mag-react sa galit mo. That way, napapakalma mo ang sarili mo at maiiwasan mong makagawa o makasabi ng hindi maganda out of anger.

(Di ko na alam kung gano karaming pagbilang ng sampu na ang nagawa ko, pero kung convertable yun into peso, mayaman na ang buong Pinas. haha.)

Naaala ko, the first time I used this 'method' was in Highschool. (and until now, inaapply ko pa din sya paminsan minsan. hehe.)

Yung classmate ko, kinuha ung notebook ko tas ayaw nya ibalik kase kokopya ata ng assignment ko. (tikas e no? ako pa kinopyahan? haha)

Padating na yung Teacher at pag nakita na nagpapakopya ako, syempre mapapagalitan ako.

Sabi ko sa Klasmeyt ko, "Uy, akin na yan! (pabebe voice)"

Ayaw ibalik.

Dumating ung Teacher, nakita ung notebook ko sa kanila.

Pinatayo kami sa harapan at pinagalitan.

Naalala ko ung inis ko non, kase ndi ko mapagtanggol ung sarili ko dahil I'm the awkward-quiet-brainy girl ng room.

Nagbilang ako upto 10. Yung 10 naging 20. Naging 30. Naging 50, tas 100. 'Di effective.

Di ko kinaya, sabi ko sa Teacher ko.

"Mam, hindi po ako nagpapakopya."

Tas sabay harap sa Klasmeyt ko na noon ay nakatayo din,

"Di ko kasalanan na patubuan lang ng buhok ang ulo mo."

(MTRCB. Wag nyo po itong gagayahin.)

Nagulat sila.

Mas nagulat ako.

Pambihira. Di ako ganito magsalita. Sabi ko sa sarili ko.

Pinaupo naman kami ng Teacher ko.

Natapos ung klase, umalis na yung Teacher namin.

Isa-isang lumapit sakin ung mga kaibigan ko.

At parang mga bubuyog na sinasabing..

"Tama lang ung ginawa mo."

"Ok lang yon."

"Kasalanan naman nya"

"Di ko alam na kaya mo pala magsalita ng ganon."

"ang galing mo don, napahiya mo sya."

Well, I won't say na hindi sya maganda sa pakiramdam kase it does. Feeling ko nakaganti ako dun sa pasaway na kaklase ko.

Pero deep in my heart, alam kong mali ung ginawa ko.

I could have just explained myself to the Teacher, no need to humiliate my classmate.

Anger is normal. Tao tayo e.

But without guidance, anger can make us say/do things we're not built of.

Hindi naman tayo built to degrade and humiliate others.

Hindi naman tayo built to say foul words.

And anger should never be an excuse to disrespect people.

Malinaw na sinabi sa Bible, “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold." - Ephesians 4:26-32

So anong dat kong gawin pag galit ako, ate Jo?

Una, magbilang ng sampu. (gawin mo lang sa isip mo. wag mo iverbalize, baka sabihin ng kaharap mo binibigyan mo ng taning ang buhay nya. HAHAHA). Hanggang feeling mo may magagawa o masasabi kang ndi maganda, magbilang ka lang jan.

Hasty temper will make mistakes. - Proverbs 14:29

Keep your temper under control; it is foolish to harbor a grudge. - Ecclesiastes 7:9

At lastly, Don’t try to get revenge for yourselves, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath. It is written, Revenge belongs to me; I will pay it back, says the Lord. -

Romans 12:19

Yan din ang pinakadahilan bat ndi ako naganti if someone does me wrong. Si Lord na bahala sa kanila. Yes, I can stand up for myself, pero pag sobra na, nako, si Lord na bahala pumalo sa kanila.

So kung galit ka as of the moment, sabayan mo akong magbilang upto ten. Hehe.

the life of a parish priest in a nutshell

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23 April 2023

Gumising ka maaga, kasi linggo

Kahit nung nakaraang araw, gabi ka na din nakatulog Nagmisa ka, dalawa agad, Ginalingan mo, para magsimba ulit sila-

Ayaw mo silang madala

Pinilit mong kumbinsihin yung mga magulang bakit mahalaga ang first communion….

Sinikap mong màunawaan ng mga bata kung ano ang Banal na Eukaristiya…kulang na lang tumambling ka…

Humarap ka sa ilang mga tao, iba’t iba ang concerns nila

Dagdag isipin din

Pinagsabihan mo mga kabataan mo sa parokya, malilikot sila

Nayamot ka

Naglibing kang ng isang lingkod ng simbahan malapit sa iyong puso

Malungkot ka

Nagbasbas ka ng isang bagong kapilya at nakisaya sa kanila

Nakinig ng ilang musika sa isang pagdiriwang, nag enjoy ka sana, pero talagang pagod ka na…magdadadrive ka pa nga pala…

Simple lang naman gusto mo, sana sa hapunan, may itlog na pula

coping with celibate sexuality

 09/07/22 M24 SW Residential Affiliate

"I know that I will always have sexual desires as long as I'm alive. I think the best thing to do is to be OPEN to a group of people i trust, mainly something in our brotherhood that w recall a MEN'S GROUP. The more I SHARE the better I can CONTROL or at least UNDERSTAND how to control it. 

Also having ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS within my group."